I Don’t Know How Yet, But I’ll Make It!

I don’t know what I’m going to do to get out of this tunnel I’m trapped in. Sometimes life is so full of fog that you risk going wrong and you can even think that the world will end tomorrow. I know, however, that this situation is the result of blindness caused by all the negative emotions and thoughts that haunt me. Inside I know for sure that I will be able to get out of it. Because other times I have experienced this feeling and have always managed to overcome it.

There are several situations that now, looking at them from a different point of view, make me think that I have exceeded my limits, taking into account the danger they really represented. In those moments, the biggest drama was what I created in my mind. However, there are still beliefs and points of view that I have to revise, I have to find calm somehow.

The end is always a new beginning

The end of something is always a difficult, demoralizing moment. That sadness that accompanies us when we finish a book or our favorite TV series, that fear that invades us in front of the possibility of breaking up with our partner and destroying the idea of ​​eternal love, these emotions provoke in us a feeling that we want to avoid. at all costs.

However, this also prevents us from making decisions that would prove beneficial. For example, it is not bad to put an end to a relationship if there is no longer any connection but memories, if it is a relationship that could indeed be a cause of suffering. We are convinced otherwise, however, and hold our position, with a false sense of loyalty to the other, while we betray ourselves.

Sometimes breaking up or leaving something behind is not a conscious decision we make. Sometimes it  is circumstances that force us to close a circle and they do so without giving us a chance to step back. This is a huge blow to us. We are not ready to decide and it is not something we really want either.

We consider lasting, eternal, safe things to be beautiful, good, vice versa the opposite of these situations is negative for us. This is what they taught us from an early age, what drives us to attach ourselves to different objects, situations and people. This is why we find it hard to let go, to give up, to make decisions that represent an end.

The end closes a cycle, it’s true. Phases that come to an end and do not repeat themselves. You can’t rewind the tape, there is no way to bring the past back into the present. What we are not aware of is that every end actually marks a new beginning: fear blinds reality. If one thing ends, then it is an excellent way to embark on new paths with the strength that experience has given us.

When life gets tough, we can lose our way, but we don’t give up

Let’s get rid of those beliefs that it seems that the end of something is the materialization of a failure. This brings nothing but frustration and great anxiety that paralyzes us and prevents us from moving forward, damages our self-esteem by making us think that there is some kind of black magic inside us that is powerful enough to put an end to any important project.

We have more resistance than we think, an ability to grasp the stimulus even when the mind tends to forget that we have already done so. We have experienced many moments in the past thinking that we have hit rock bottom or reached the end, but when we least expected it, new possibilities have arisen.

It hurts to put an end to a situation that has made us happy, which has given us so many beautiful moments. We “get used” to the safety of routine. Not leaving everyday life is what makes us feel safe and certain that everything will be fine.

We are now used to being in our comfort zone: warm, pleasant, welcoming. We’re really fine there, but there comes a time when we feel stalled. Furthermore, as much as we wish to be safe, adversity, problems and difficulties are always lurking to test us.

At this point, I know for a fact that I will be able to see the most unpleasant circumstances as an opportunity and not as an injury. Because after avoiding various situations that required me to make decisions,  sooner or later I will come to a dead end road for which, like it or not, I will have to test my determination.

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